Abuse can take many forms, and it does not always have to be physical. Just because you are not physically being hurt, it does not mean that you don’t have options. You can still file for a restraining order against your abuser.
If you are in an abusive relationship, whether physically, emotionally, or both, contact MNB Law Group for a consultation.
What Kind of Behavior is Emotionally Abusive?
If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, your spouse or partner might exhibit several behaviors that you do not have to put up with, including:
- Verbal abuse: Yelling, swearing, patronizing, dismissing you, manipulating you, and insulting you.
- Controlling and shaming you: Threatening, controlling your schedule, spying on your digital life, financial control, and decision-making without your input.
- Blame and jealousy: Making you feel guilty, gaslighting, denying abuse, picking fights, and destroying property.
- Isolation and emotional neglect: Cutting you off from friends and family, withholding affection, demanding respect without reciprocation, and interrupting or disputing your emotions.
If you recognize one or more of these behaviors in your relationship, you could be a victim of emotional abuse. This behavior will eventually make you unhappy in the relationship, and potentially too afraid to leave.
Signs of Codependency in Abusive Relationships
Becoming codependent leads to a dangerous dynamic where you believe your abuser “needs” you. Common signs include:
- Prioritizing your partner’s needs over your own
- Constantly seeking validation from your abuser
- Isolating yourself from friends and family
- Feeling guilty for asserting yourself
- Believing you deserve the mistreatment
What is Gaslighting, Trauma Bonding, and Coercive Control?
Modern forms of emotional abuse often include:
- Gaslighting: Making you question your memory, perception, or sanity.
- Trauma bonding: Forming an emotional attachment with your abuser due to cycles of abuse and intermittent kindness.
- Coercive control: Using manipulation, threats, or humiliation to dominate your actions and choices.
These tactics are now recognized in many courts as legitimate forms of psychological abuse that warrant legal protection.
If you’re in immediate danger or need someone to talk to, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233).
Can You File a Restraining Order for Emotional Abuse in California?
Yes. Under California Family Code S6320, a person can file for a domestic violence restraining order based on emotional, verbal, or psychological abuse, not just physical harm. Emotional and mental abuse is a valid legal basis for protection.
Legal Grounds Include:
- Harassment, intimidation, and threats
- Destruction of personal property
- Digital or in-person stalking
- Verbal assaults or psychological manipulation
Types of Restraining Orders:
- Emergency Protective Order (EPO)
- Temporary Restraining Order (TRO)
- Permanent Domestic Violence Restraining Order
- Civil Harassment Order (for non-domestic relationships)
Note: MNB Law Group can file these documents on your behalf and guide you through every legal step.
How to Document Emotional Abuse for Court
Gathering evidence is critical in emotional abuse cases. Here’s what may help:
- Text messages, emails, and voicemails that demonstrate abuse
- Daily journaling of incidents and emotional impact
- Statements from family, friends, or coworkers
- Screenshots or records of digital harassment
- Bank statements or financial records indicating coercive control
What If Children Are Involved in the Abuse?
If your abuser’s behavior affects your children, directly or indirectly, you can include them in your restraining order. Courts consider:
- Witnessing abuse
- Being used as a control mechanism
- Emotional trauma resulting from the home environment
MNB Law Group specializes in family law and can ensure your children are protected under California law.
What to Expect When Filing for a Restraining Order
- Schedule a consultation with a domestic violence attorney.
- File the necessary forms (DV-100, DV-110) at your county’s Family Court.
- Request a temporary restraining order if you’re in immediate danger.
- Serve the papers to your abuser with the help of law enforcement or a process server.
- Attend the court hearing to request a permanent order.
Life After the Order: Staying Safe and Supported
Once you’ve secured legal protection:
- Create a safety plan for housing, work, and communication
- Consider counseling or trauma therapy
- Join local support groups or online communities
- Contact victim advocacy organizations for ongoing help
MNB Law Group can refer you to trusted professionals and organizations in California that specialize in emotional abuse recovery.
FAQ: Emotional Abuse and Legal Protection
What qualifies as emotional abuse legally?
Any behavior that causes psychological harm, fear, or manipulation, including threats, intimidation, gaslighting, and coercion.
Do I need to show physical harm to get a restraining order?
No. California law allows for restraining orders based solely on emotional and psychological abuse.
What if I live with my abuser?
The court can order your abuser to vacate the residence. You can remain in your home with legal protection.
Can I include my children in the restraining order?
Yes, especially if they witness or are affected by the abuse. You can request protection for your entire family.
Do I need a lawyer to get a restraining order?
You can file on your own, but having an experienced attorney significantly increases your chances of success and ensures proper documentation.
Why Choose MNB Law Group?
MNB Law Group is a trusted name in California for family law and domestic violence cases. We understand the emotional and legal complexity of these situations and are committed to protecting your rights and safety.
- Experienced Domestic Violence Lawyers
- Multilingual Legal Support
- Discreet, Compassionate Consultations
- Focused on Family and Individual Safety
Take the First Step Toward Safety
You are not alone. If you are experiencing emotional or psychological abuse, legal help is available.
Contact MNB Law Group today for a confidential consultation.
Let us help you protect your future and regain control of your life.
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